February 2012
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"watching LDR do this lyrical melodrama while...
militantmaudlinist:
It is possible for for someone to be highly intelligent, and yet have no information. This condition—usually associated with youth or prolonged adolescence—results often in boredom, the existential progenitor of nearly every significant art and cultural movement.[…] Boredom, a brililiant and brazen stupidity, is dazzlingly preemptive. When the bored youth is no longer young,...
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hysteriarama:
karaj: embarrassed, not “embarrassed”
winnet:
karaj:
kj: [redacted beloved college professor] is gonna also be at a conference that i will be at at nyu. wc: you should wear your green pajama pants to jog her memory. kj: omg FUCK OFF. no one knows about the green pajama pants! how do you remember those?! wc: green pajama…
me too! just got to new york...
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embarrassed, not "embarrassed"
winnet:
karaj:
kj: [redacted beloved college professor] is gonna also be at a conference that i will be at at nyu. wc: you should wear your green pajama pants to jog her memory. kj: omg FUCK OFF. no one knows about the green pajama pants! how do you remember those?! wc: green pajama pants and rubber shoes, mary! that was your signature look.
also attending (i’m assuming the same) conference...
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the tyranny of old friends with good memories, OR:...
kj: [redacted beloved college professor] is gonna also be at a conference that i will be at at nyu.
wc: you should wear your green pajama pants to jog her memory.
kj: omg FUCK OFF. no one knows about the green pajama pants! how do you remember those?!
wc: green pajama pants and rubber shoes, mary! that was your signature look.
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this is how we compliment now.
mikkipedia:
“you realize how amazing this email is right? like, its gonna end up in the fales archives.”
death of the author or whatever but i am taking full credit for saying this. it’s all gonna end up in the fales archives, be ready.
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“…part of what she documents are the aftereffects of maintaining secrecy.”
– ann cvetkovich on jean carlomusto’s to catch a glimpse in an archive of feelings: trauma, sexuality, and lesbian public cultures. maintaining secrets can be traumatic.
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“more so than distinctions between private and public trauma, those between...”
– ann cvetkovich, an archive of feelings: trauma, sexuality, and lesbian public cultures
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“because trauma can be unspeakable and unrepresentable and because it is marked...”
– ann cvetkovich, an archive of feelings: trauma, sexuality, and lesbian public cultures
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LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, LISA CRYSTAL CARVER →
an amazing interview with one of my personal heroes. a few people have asked me recently if i regret the last year and a half and i always say no, and i think that’s partly because i have absorbed, as much as someone who has some melancholic predilections could, lisa’s adventurous attitude towards life. in this interview she talks about memoir-writing, zines, and performance art; plus...
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“i was creeping your tumblr. (again.)”
– everyone, including people i’m meeting for the first time. (nb: i feel like everyone’s creeping of everyone else’s tumblr gives new meaning to the TLC song. it’s like, tumblr creeping as a feminist strategy related to gossip. think about it and play some TLC.)
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feminist craft time #confessions
kj: i don't think i've crafted since grade school.
as: you're such an adult. i aspire to be an adult like you.
kj: it's not very 90s.
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intimate objects
he couldn’t find the camera the night before we went to LA so our first day there all he wanted to do was go shopping. i said okay, we could take a few hours and buy a camera to document our rapidly dwindling three-day vacation, but i didn’t say that, since it was his first vacation, ever, and the first time we’d really been away since the miscarriage, and it’s possible...
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“…an in-your-face owning of one’s vulnerability and fucked-upness to...”
– dodie bellamy, in the buddhist. a year and a half ago, when mike and i broke up, emily gave me i love dick. this breakup season, she gave me the buddhist. i cannot put this book down for obvious reasons.
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on changing my mind, not really
the “cool i”: so i’m doing it, right? because i’m not even really mad or humiliated, i’m just interested in my own anger and humiliation and it’s so removed once i tumblr it. (not just the cessation of humiliation as tranquilizing, but maybe something closer to euphoria. have i already said that after great pain there is not just a formal feeling, but a...
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“you totally show up the condescender and then you tell everyone about it....”
– ada, again, on taylor. in that spirit, i would like to add that while he was not humiliating me (or maybe simultaneously), he was crying, so much crying, and accusing me, almost from the beginning, of not really being in love with him, even though he had been in love with me for years. there were...
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tactical recap
rgr-pop:
sl33pcr33p:
hysteriarama:
feminist gossip
feminist boredom
radical narcissism
feminist oversharing
feminist makeupping
menstrual poetics
see also: upping the coven, bullying, internet gangs
stuff you should read
Theory Coven* *Again, I’m not so into witch vibes but I’m into W.I.T.C.H. vibes
oh, i like “theory coven.”
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on the politics of gossip and the end of privacy
rgr-pop:
Spontaneous, decentered, and multivocal, gossip is antithetical to developmental narrative. It seizes details and hyperbolizes their importance; it defies the notion of information as property. Gossip exemplifies both antinarrative and antirepresentational strategies that dehierarchize linear narrative accounts, both orientalist and nationalist, with a popular, multiple record of very...
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commitments and experiments
emilysyrja:
also my commitment to embarrassing my boyfriend is so great that i started collecting quotes from him in my drafts and am going to post them whenever i am proud of/mad at him, depending on context
he asked me if i was doing an experiment in radical transparency and i said “maybe.”
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ROMANCE ADVICE:
pussy-strut:
surprise your man with sporadic acts of calculated aggression
i liked to remind him that i did better on the verbal SATs and that if this academic thing didn’t work out i could go back to the times and edit his column.
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"it's the only relationship i've ever been in...
kj: i was humiliated when he sent me home two days after i had a seizure saying “i’m worried about you, but i have a lot of work to do.” i was humiliated by his fake thoughtful birthday gift. i was humiliated when he canceled the relationship summit we had planned for a month so he could go to barney’s. i was humiliated when he ruined my birthday dinner by refusing to talk to one...
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“be a dick to me? go for it. i will humiliate you in front of TEN MILLION tweens...”
– ada’s forever hilarious exegesis of taylor swift’s revenge aesthetics.
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“beneath the faux-breezy boredom of tanenhaus’ tone is a kind of sexist rage that...”
– i was re-reading myself, as one does, and thinking that, after that ann liv young post, this 90swoman post is maybe my favorite thing i’ve ever written on how bored The Heteropatriarchy is with us and how we are forever accused of being boring, or out of step with time.
also, doesn’t...
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liz phair on lana del rey and "how dare she?"
winnet:
“Let me break it down for you: she’s writing herself into existence. She’s giving herself a part to play because, God knows, no one else will and she wants to matter in this life. As far as I can tell, it’s working. I went straight to iTunes and bought her new release “Born To Die” in toto (how often do I do that??) because it was more than a collection of songs or a performance, it was...
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“woman must write her self: must write about women and bring women to writing,...”
– helene cixous, the laugh of the medusa, 1975
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“i’m glad you still have your laugh.”
– mikki said this to me months ago when i met her for drinks, which was monumental, i was so depressed. i thought it was such a nice thing to say. my therapist had asked me before “why are you saying you are depressed when you are laughing?” and i didn’t know what to say except...
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from an email when we were trying to figure out if...
j: would you fuck me if i wasn't famous? i think so.
kj: are you famous?
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all the time i might do it right now
psychotropicpolitics:
sometimes i just reread my own blogs and smirk
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"well, you look great. no one would ever know if...
this is the right thing for a friend to say to me because:
feminist narcissism
i’m gonna tell them
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living through this (together)
lookerlooker:
“Sex is not a thing, it’s a relation; it’s a non-relation in propinquity to some kind of a recognition; it’s a sock drawer for the anxious affects; it’s a gesture cluster that can be organized in an identity for the purpose of passing through normative sociality; it’s an event, an episode; it feels so good, or not; it’s an experience of becoming disorganized that, at the same time,...
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“one can die from being unable to write in time the book one has in one’s...”
– helene cixous, first days of the year. has anyone written so well about tumblr feminism without writing about tumblr feminism?
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"i think the airport screaming is the BEST"
neal is one of my most enthusiastic friends and that’s what he enthusiastically said to me when i told him about the time i yelled at my ex-boyfriend for three hours in the denver airport. this validation came during an email exchange while i was still in lewiston. neal said he was getting in touch because he had “secretly, or maybe not so secretly” heard about the breakup and wanted to...
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art projects
kj: let's do it. i don't think my therapist would approve, but that's okay.
as: if your therapist approved we'd be doing it wrong.
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