as the two professions i have been involved in—academia, the media—crumble, what maybe looked irrational to others always felt rational to me. that bryn mawr graduate remains an outsize figure in my personal imaginary, a permissive patron, whether or not she would have agreed with my prioritizing my relationship over my (official) scholarship.
(she might have, if i explained. a person might rationally argue that this relationship supports my official and unofficial scholarship, as well as many other things i care about, more than it does not.)
also, bryn mawr is the only school besides swarthmore whose graduates i immediately assume are smarter than me. than i. you know what i mean. i wrote that angry letter to their PR firm once, but if if my unconceived child ever went to bryn mawr, i would be thrilled.
You have Audrey collar bones and you have looked amazing and calm and happy and sexy and pretty through your wedding events. Love love love.
thank you! i think we made almost every part of the experience something that was fun, and meaningful, and we actually wanted to do (yes to lots of professional hair and makeup, no to seating charts). i’m glad that that calmness was reflected in the pictures.
I think I speak for all of tumblr when I say- I wish you could get married every few months. karaj in love and getting married has been a constant bright spot in my newsfeed/day/life (as much as a stranger could). Though I am willing to bet that karaj in love and married will be just as incandescent.
sometimes i worry—more about the tumblring than the love—but this gives me hope. thank you!
They sleep in to late, M and take off to many days. S
That’s what we all say mmmm. L That’s what we all say mmmm O
She has 20 pairs of heels, M And she’s super super sweet S
That’s what we all say mmmm L That’s what we all say mmmm O But there really cool S Our favorite aunt and uncle M it’s like they got this music S in there minds saying they should keep chilling M ya ya ya O&L
It’s Marc and Kara’s wedding day day day We’re gonna have ice cream cake cake cake cake cake Then there gonna chill chill chill chill chill they’ll chill out now They’ll chill out now All
Yahoo yahoo All
There all ready married ed ed ed But today’s the ceremony y y y And now there gonna chill chill chill chill chill They’ll chill out now They’ll chill out now All Yahoo yahoo All
They really like to sleep M And have matching glasses S
And that’s what we all see mmmm L That’s what we all see mmmm. O
He works at google works at google M And he’s Very funny very funny S
And that’s what we all know mmmm O That’s what we all know mmmm. L
But they keep on snoozing Can’t stop won’t stop cruising It’s like they’ve got this music in there minds saying they should keep chilling
It’s Marc and Kara’s wedding day day day we’re gonna have ice cream cake cake cake cake cake Then there gonna chill chill chill chill chill they’ll chill out now They’ll chill out now
Hey hey hey Se while while you’ve been getting really bored and tired of original Taylor swift shake it off song You could have been chilling out with this remix
When we first met my uncles new girlfriend we were like oh my gosh all she wears is heals And to my uncle over there with the lack of eyebrow hair Won’t you come over here and cut the cake cake cake
It’s Marc and Kara’s wedding day day day And we’re gonna have ice cream cake cake cake cake cake Then there gonna chill chill chill chill chill they’ll chill out now They’ll chill out now
There all ready married ed ed ed But today’s the ceremony y y y And now there gonna chill chill chill chill chill They’ll chill out now They’ll chill out now
chill out now They’ll chill out now They’ll they’ll they’ll chill out now They’ll chill out now They’ll they’ll They’ll chill out now They’ll chill out now They’ll They’ll They’ll chill out nowThey’ll chill out now
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Kara’s was one of the first tumblrs I followed 6 years ago and shortly after bought and read the excellent book she co-authored with Marisa Meltzer. Though I’ve never met her in person, I have followed her thoughts and experiences that she has shared online and think she is a wonderful person.
I hope this doesn’t come off as sounding creepy but I would say that I consider her a friend and sorta wish she were my sister, which is why I am so happy for her and Marc and wish them a continuance of the joy and love they have for one another <3 <3
<3. you know, i always thought you must have read the book first, then found my tumblr. i’m so glad it was actually the other way around. and thank you for this.
XVII No one’s fated or doomed to love anyone. The accidents happen, we’re not heroines, they happen in our lives like car crashes, books that change us, neighborhoods we move into and come to love. Tristan und Isolde is scarcely the story, women at least should know the difference between love and death. No poison cup, no penance. Merely a notion that the tape-recorder should have caught some ghost of us: that tape-recorder not merely played but should have listened to us, and could instruct those after us: this we were, this is how we tried to love, and these are the forces they had ranged against us, and theses are the forces we had ranged within us, within us and against us, against us and within us.
more lesbian poetry. i was trying to explain this the other day, but it explains itself.
XV If I lay on that beach with you white, empty, pure green water warmed by the Gulf Stream and lying on that beach we could not stay because the wind drove fine sand against us as if it were against us if we tried to withstand it and we failed— if we drove to another place to sleep in each other’s arms and the beds were narrow like prisoners’ cots and we were tired and did not sleep together and this was what we found, so this is what we did— was the failure ours? If I cling to circumstances I could feel not responsible. Only she who says she did not choose, is the loser in the end.
i have seen marc truly drunk maybe three times in two years, and tonight is one of them. the (married?) group of guys he went to drinks, and dinner, and drinks, with wanted to know what he likes about me, because all of their wives are smart and pretty, and he said that, but also, “she’s the only person i want to talk to.” they confirmed that that’s good, because talking to each other is the main thing we’ll be doing for the rest of our lives.
he was lying on top of me, fully clothed, while telling me this, after he asked if i had worn the dress i was wearing all day, and said that he loves this dress. (i am sure that this is one of the dresses he has never complimented me on. he has complimented me on the heels or the lipstick i was wearing with the dress, but not the dress itself. i have a very accurate memory for these things.)
he apologized maybe ten times for drinking too much and i said and meant it was fine, and we talked about how one of his friends has a kid at packer but he and his wife want her to go to brearley, like her mom. packer is closer to both of our apartments, and the local sephora, but i like this friend enough to try to understand his private new york city high school feelings.
anyway, it sounds like a fun bachelor party. i am taking this opportunity to sit in the family room, tumblring this post even though i’ve tumblred at least four other posts, and instagramed two pictures, already today. i’ve got a nightcap, i might listen to my ipod, it’s just like the best of the old days, except that marc is in bed having already said “i love you” and “you smell like candy” and “you always smell like candy,” “i like how you smell,” and “you smell like when we first met.”
we’re getting in our new (old) volvo and going to the hamptons tomorrow, sometime after i get a nail polish change. best bachelorette i could ask for. i just hope he doesn’t throw up or come out here to retrieve me. i know that at some point, even this drunk, he will retrieve me.
Kierkegaard stating “Whoever has learned to be anxious in the right way has learned the ultimate…It is an adventure that every human being has to live through, learning to be anxious so as not to be ruined either by never having been in anxiety or by sinking into it” is what Avital Ronell means when she says that anxiety is the mode of ethicity par excellence.
i opened therapy yesterday by saying “i’m extremely anxious. but i haven’t been taking it out on anybody.” on the cab ride home, after i had tipped him 25%, the driver kept thanking me for being patient about the traffic. i was happy to just stare out the window, though. when i told my therapist i was anxious last week she said “it’s probably because you got your dream and you’re afraid someone will spoil it.” anyway, i’ve got some tougher negotiations today.
This project group will explore and push the rhetorical limits of social media platforms, researching and practicing inventive uses of these composing technologies. Rather than positioning social media as antithetical to critical thinking and attentive rhetorical practice—as is common in mainstream discourse—members of Excitable Media will explore ways that scholars, teachers, and students of rhetoric and writing can use social media to encourage and enact rhetorical and critical reflection.
As Liz Kinnamon argues in the introduction to #Social Media Anxieties: A Zine on Digital Failure and Attachment, the most popular social media sites—e.g. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram—are “becoming calcified” in their own unique structures of feeling: Facebook for announcing life’s successes, Instagram for what were once Kodak moments, and so on. In exploring social media as a ground for rhetorical invention and innovation, Excitable Media will attempt to interrupt this calcification. The primary goal of the group, therefore, is to find out what is possible for students, teachers, and scholars of rhetoric when we re-think the capabilities of social media and the rhetorical uses to which such media might be put. The group’s exploration of this question will help to situate their project within a larger scholarly discourse. However, group members will not only need to consider the question conceptually—they will also be encouraged to experiment with and enact innovative composition practices using social media technologies, perhaps even using social media to report and publish the group’s findings.
A Tumblr that probes the eternal question: are we networking right now or fangirling? E.g. This text message exchange between feelingofgaze and start-anywhere about karaj
this warms my heart! i’ve been meaning to post about “excitable media”—it’s all in my drafts—i just keep getting lost in weird fashion tumblring. anyway, as you know, i have a lot of love for both of these blogs. and now this new blog, too.