May 2011
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on being the sentimental one
i loathe weddings. also, games. also, anything billed as a “girls” or “ladies” something—girls night out, ladies brunch, i almost want to throw up just typing it. marisa says i hate “organized fun.”
but that doesn’t mean i hate celebration or commemoration. for example: at least once a month or so i send marisa and/or jon some random email from...
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“which way, which way? asks alice, sensing that it is always in both directions...”
– deleuze, the logic of sense. and this forever.
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“It’s now that time of the year that I begin collecting romantic,...”
– best sparkler promises us a magical summer, complete with lesbian foodstuffs.
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“like the three witches of macbeth, like the supremes: LET US FLUSH AWAY COSMIC...”
– joon, discussing our plans with MM for friday morning. expect bloody marys and spells.
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“talk always”
– not just the best email signoff from 5/22/2010 but all year
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woodkat:
“That was the year, my twenty-eighth, when I was discovering that not all of the promises would be kept, that some things are in fact irrevocable and that it had counted after all, every evasion and every procrastination, every mistake, every word, all of it.”
Joan Didion, “Goodbye To All That” (in Slouching Towards Bethlehem)
being both in total agreement with and totally...
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Cambridge Elegy (for Henry Averell Gerry, 1941-60)
I hardly know how to speak to you now, you are so young now, closer to my daughter’s age than mine — but I have been there and seen it, and must tell you, as the seeing and hearing spell the world into the deaf-mute’s hand. The tiny dormer windows like the ears of a fox, like the long row of teats on a pig, still perk up over the Square,...
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“i would not mind being a mare.”
– marisa meltzer, over bloody mary #1 or maybe #2, at 2 PM, on a tuesday, at prime meats, explaining something sort of maybe not fit for tumblr, sometime after we discussed janexo (“it’s xojane,” marisa corrected me) and our hopes for an organization called GAG’M.
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feminist intervention of the day
so i got an email this morning from a woman who runs a trendspotting firm asking me if i would like to attend a dinner to help brainstorm ideas to get girls to attend an all-women’s college. in return for this “labor of love” i was offered “a good time.”
you’re kidding, right?
do not sign me up to support any women’s college that thinks that any woman...
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"we are not friends i am the boss of you!"
kj: my mom didnt play with me and i think that is fine.
jv: no my mom never did and i am fine. my mother was at work!
kj: completely. mine was too! i actually think that's good. kids can play with kids.
jv: yes kids should play with kids.
kj: it's not my job to just entertain. they can learn to read. i feel like parents today are always spending hours playing and i'm like, um, no.
jv: no that makes no sense to me. like, french lessons. horse camp. whatever. do your thing small weird person. read jane eyre. read middlemarch. it's 800 pages and will take a while. like, go off and learn to be.
kj: YES!!!!!!! my thoughts EXACTLY.
jv: we clearly need to co-parent!
kj: take your barbies and make them have lesbian sex with each other. that's what i did and look how i turned out.
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golden oldie
I made it home early, only to get stalled in the driveway-swaying at the wheel like a blind pianist caught in a tune meant for more than two hands playing. The words were easy, crooned by a young girl dying to feel alive, to discover a pain majestic enough to live by. I turned the air conditioning off, leaned back to float on a film of sweat, and listened to her sentiment: Baby, where...
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deleuze explains my biggest problem in life
“in this sense, we can recognise a persistent intentionality in every stereotype, even in a schizophrenic grinding of the jaws. this amounts to investing the entirety of psychic life in a fragment, gesture, or word, in the absence of any other object of investment, these in turn becoming the elements of the other repetition: for example, the patient who turns ever more rapidly on one foot,...
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elms
(mkarmstr:youarebonbon)
by louise gluck
All day I tried to distinguish
need from desire. Now, in the dark,
I feel only bitter sadness for us,
the builders, the planers of wood,
because I have been looking
steadily at these elms
and seen the process that creates
the writhing, stationary tree
is torment, and have understood
it will make no forms but twisted forms.
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“the more theatrical and dramatic operation by which healing takes place—or does not take place—has a name: transference. now transference is still repetition: above all it is repetition. if repetition makes us ill, it also heals us; if it unchains and destroys us, it also frees us, testifying in both cases to its ‘demonic’ power. all cure is a voyage to the bottom of...
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remember in the 90s when hypertext was going to liberate feminist writing? (“electronic tools for dismantling the master’s house: poststructuralist feminist research and hypertext poetics.”) that was so really real. all of this masculinist emphasis on “paragraphs” and “transitions” really does not work for the irigarayan proliferation that is happening...
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“the difference between derrida and deleuze is simple and deep: it is the...”
– gordon bearn, differentiating derrida and deleuze (qtd. in reynolds; via b o r d e r l a n d s e-journal)
omg. shots fired, kinda.
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“that is why it is so difficult to say how someone learns: there is an innate or practical familiarity with signs, which means that there is something amorous—but also something fatal—about all education. we learn nothing from those who say: ‘do as i do.’ our only teachers are those who tell us to ‘do with me,’ and are able to emit signs to be developed in heterogeneity...
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to girls, 'sassy' meant something more →
(randtm:kali—ma)
aw. so touching to see this npr interview from 2007 on tumblr.
“i would say that a sassy girl was someone who maybe didn’t think that high school was necessarily the best time of their life.”
ultramaricon:
“she is fond of irretrievable personal failures, of people who have had to give up even the memory of happiness, who love and suffer in silence, and minister in secret to the happiness of those who look over their heads. she is interested in general in secret histories, in the ‘inner life’ of the weak, the superfluous, the disappointed, the bereaved, the unmarried.”
-henry james...
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how do to an interview tevs-style
bombmagazine:
Lynne Tillman You paint the same object every day. You have since 1974. That fascinates me.
Peter Dreher Is this the question?
LT Do whatever you want with it.
—BOMB 57, Fall 1996
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the phenomenology of ugly feelings
“sartre describes emotions as surfacing during moments when one loses one’s distance from the world of objects and people. because stigmatized people are presented with significantly more obstacles and blockages than privileged citizen-subjects, minoritarian subjects often have difficulty maintaining distance from the very material and felt obstacles that suddenly surface in their own...
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“it should be no surprise that queers are liable to an intense library cathexis. what sort of people, after all, must research who they are? those whose difference is antifamilial, somatically unmarked, culturally veiled, and potentially shaming are drawn to lonely stacks and secret research, where the archive enables self-definition.”
—valerie rohy, “in the queer archive: fun home”. GLQ...
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"i'm so tired of likability"
meltzer:
Lauren Elkin on Sempre Susan: “It’s about fleshing out the portrait of an important and complex American intellectual. Why do we need our important intellectuals to be likable and come across ‘favorably’?”
I was thinking about this at the Ellen Willis conference—which was great—over the weekend, particularly during one of the presenter’s papers comparing Sontag and Willis. It was a...
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