PSA

(via limchoylee: lagrandefille)

a reliable source says that this website is the worst, or at least has the worst writers/fake theorists and their idiotic articles, but i am reblogging this anyway, in a state of utter mortification, as a PSA, because i personally cannot abide a man telling me i am having the wrong emotional response to his bad behavior, and no else should have to, either. 

so if this sounds familiar to you, try to get past the tone and the blah blah and focus on how manipulative it is to make a woman question herself by regularly insinuating that “her reactions are out of whack.” i literally once suggested to a therapist that i was so sensitive that maybe i was borderline. luckily, she actually laughed at me and told me all the reasons i wasn’t and added that, actually, i wasn’t even that sensitive. #self-care.

anyway, it’s so dumb! read it! then go read an archive of feelings and think about different emotional styles to make yourself feel smart about why minoritarian subjects can’t talk about how they really feel in the first place and how trying to force them to do so, or discounting how they feel when they tell you, is The Heteropatriarchy. vulnerability is a fucking privilege.