feminist permission slips to feel how you feel! i actually love to be asked how i am feeling or even, as my dad asks me some mornings, “how is your head today?” particularly if the other person’s reaction is not disingenuous or dismissive or disdainful or angry or incredulous or condescending, or otherwise manipulative or controlling, but some version of ”your feelings are valid and understandable.” also, if someone can come up with a slightly cooler way to say “what do you need?” i would be really into that, too. you have to create a whole atmosphere for that one to work, though. like this.  

(Source: fornowjustcarryon)