“it’s the only relationship i’ve ever been in where i felt humiliated.”

kj: i was humiliated when he sent me home two days after i had a seizure saying “i’m worried about you, but i have a lot of work to do.” i was humiliated by his fake thoughtful birthday gift. i was humiliated when he canceled the relationship summit we had planned for a month so he could go to barney’s. i was humiliated when he ruined my birthday dinner by refusing to talk to one of the five people i had invited and by not even telling me in advance he wasn’t going to speak to her and then afterward acting like he didn’t understand why i was upset. i was humiliated that he thought we shouldn’t have the baby then, but “maybe in 6 months.” i was humiliated that he would make a big deal about our dinner plans and then not show up until 10:00. i was humiliated by his relationship with his twitter. 

my therapist: and then you were humiliated because you were still there fighting with him. 

kj: exactly. i was humiliated because i allowed it.