"you totally show up the condescender and then you tell everyone about it. totally riot grrrl."

ada, again, on taylor. in that spirit, i would like to add that while he was not humiliating me (or maybe simultaneously), he was crying, so much crying, and accusing me, almost from the beginning, of not really being in love with him, even though he had been in love with me for years. there were also ongoing accusations that i am “not nurturing” (nurturing?) and “not open” (okay pls see my tumblr for evidence to the contrary). also the occasional accusation of cheating or being attracted to one of his friends or wanting to get back together with one or another ex-boyfriend (no, no, and no). when we were at the last taylor swift concert i was like “it would be funny if we were broken up and i posted ‘dear john’ on my tumblr with the line ‘you should have known’” and he looked confused and i started laughing and was like “you’ve never thought about that before?” i’m not going to say it again, it’s too mean. this has been highly satisfying, i feel pretty therapeutically cleansed, and i think i can probably get back to tumblring theory for awhile, not that this isn’t theory.