also discussed last night:

• aliza’s ongoing conviction that every time we go out we look like “two jewish ladies on the town.” (once i was like “no one ever knows i’m jewish” and she was like “we contextualize each other.” in many ways.) 
• how i got to “feminist narcissism” via this old nancy miller quote i can never find about the importance of auto-eroticism for feminism and how, as per emily, i need to spend some time with “oops (oh my).” (“i was looking so good i couldn’t reject myself.”) 
• the importance of bodysuits. 
• the way that men should deal with the inevitable occasional mid- or post-sex cry. (hint: getting out of bed and going to the couch and refusing to come back is not a good short- or long-term strategy.) 
• how i started smoking like x decades ago with an ex that emily slept with x decades later so sometimes i like to have a cigarette with her to complete the circle. 
• how aliza really likes it when neal and i talk about pop music.
• how i told barbara the other night that i thought it was funny that my boyfriend is a lawyer and two of my best friends are always talking about one of their boyfriends dumpster diving. i was worried about emily feeling fetishized (i mean i already fetishize her a little with the shared ex-boyfriend thing by talking about it constantly), but she laughed and said “the range is important.” (barbara said “that’s how my life is too.”)
• the already-hilarious dinner that aliza and i are having tonight. 
• that the men in the bar needed to take their hats off asap (you knew this one). 
• my upcoming trip to spain. 
• hourly hotels.
• how the bartender making out with aliza’s dog boris was working in the feminist tradition of donna haraway and carolee schneemann. 
• the time i posted something really wrong on tumblr and emily texted me immediately to say “SAVE FACE” and when i thanked her for being such a good friend she said “i know you’d do the same for me.”