aliza’s ongoing conviction that every time we go out we look like “two jewish ladies on the town.” (once i was like “no one ever knows i’m jewish” and she was like “we contextualize each other.” in many ways.)
how i got to “feminist narcissism” via this old nancy miller quote i can never find about the importance of auto-eroticism for feminism and how, as per emily, i need to spend some time with “oops (oh my).” (“i was looking so good i couldn’t reject myself.”)
the importance of bodysuits.
the way that men should deal with the inevitable occasional mid- or post-sex cry. (hint: getting out of bed and going to the couch and refusing to come back is not a good short- or long-term strategy.)
how i started smoking like x decades ago with an ex that emily slept with x decades later so sometimes i like to have a cigarette with her to complete the circle.
how aliza really likes it when neal and i talk about pop music.
how i told barbara the other night that i thought it was funny that my boyfriend is a lawyer and two of my best friends are always talking about one of their boyfriends dumpster diving. i was worried about emily feeling fetishized (i mean i already fetishize her a little with the shared ex-boyfriend thing by talking about it constantly), but she laughed and said “the range is important.” (barbara said “that’s how my life is too.”)
the already-hilarious dinner that aliza and i are having tonight.
that the men in the bar needed to take their hats off asap (you knew this one).