(via lifefromscratch: fuckyeahtheorists)

“perhaps…one mourns when one accepts that by the loss one undergoes one will be changed, possibly forever. perhaps mourning has to do with agreeing to undergo a transformation (perhaps one should say submitting to a transformation) the full result of which one cannot know in advance. there is losing, as we know, but there is also the transformative effect of loss, and this latter cannot be charted or planned.”—judith butler, precarious life: the powers of mourning and violence