how do you make people who cannot share their emotions, share their emotions? i feel like that comma is illegal but i need it. i need it, okay.

autostraddle:

see up there where you said “how do you make people”
i feel like that’s where you should sit for a second and think
about how you can’t make people do things they’re not ready to do.
i could tell you that opening up to that person and proving over time that you’re a safe place for them to drop off some feelings would help nudge them in that direction, but really, that only works if they’re looking for a place that’s safe. some people just aren’t.
and really, i don’t know where my feelings would end and hers would begin, as far as what’s valid to request or expect or feel. so i think it’s hard to know when you can ask someone to grow or change or try something. i don’t know.

Ask Laneia something brand new

i think laneia gives the best counsel, even or especially when she admits she doesnt know the answer.