“anyway, i’ve felt like your mother” 

stop trying to understand this person and their ongoing boring issues that they refuse to deal with and then call you selfish because you don’t just want to live with them. also stop trying to use the words “support” and “struggle” seriously. also don’t try so hard to be rational the situation is clearly completely irrational. most adult men can wake themselves up; they aren’t sick and working in a pile of used tissues and ruining your plans on a more-than-weekly basis; and they definitely aren’t blaming the results of constantly overextending and not taking care of themselves because they have yet another crucial celebrity profile to write on their girlfriends, who are actually kind of busy getting their phds. also “i try to…help you work through ways to solve these things.” DON’T HELP HIM YOU ARE NOT HIS MOM OR HIS THERAPIST AND YOU GAVE HIM THE PHONE NUMBER OF A THERAPIST AND HAD THAT THERAPIST VETTED BY TWO OTHER THERAPISTS AND HE PROMISED TO CALL FOR MONTHS AND DIDN’T. go have a drink with your friends and read some theory. 

I need feminism because…

cityandsoul:

whoneedsfeminism:

…without my strong-willed, confident wife I would not be the strong-willed, confident man I am.

Ok, I have mostly ignored the “who needs feminism” thing because, yawn.

but i looked through it today and.

and.

this. 

thank you for giving me the opportunity to link to the actual perfect answer to this insufferable statement. 

"also, the problem of mental illness will never be solved while the male maintains control, because first, men have a vested interest in it — only females who have very few of their marbles will allow males the slightest bit of control over anything…"

valerie solanas, SCUM 

jenny holzer, from the living series, 1980-1982 

"the conflict, therefore, is not between females and males, but between SCUM — dominant, secure, self-confident, nasty, violent, selfish, independent, proud, thrill-seeking, free-wheeling, arrogant females, who consider themselves fit to rule the universe, who have free-wheeled to the limits of this `society’ and are ready to wheel on to something far beyond what it has to offer — and nice, passive, accepting `cultivated’, polite, dignified, subdued, dependent, scared, mindless, insecure, approval-seeking Daddy’s Girls, who can’t cope with the unknown, who want to hang back with the apes, who feel secure only with Big Daddy standing by, with a big strong man to lean on and with a fat, hairy face in the White House, who are too cowardly to face up to the hideous reality of what a man is, what Daddy is, who have cast their lot with the swine, who have adapted themselves to animalism, feel superficially comfortable with it and know no other way of `life’, who have reduced their minds, thoughts and sights to the male level, who, lacking sense, imagination and wit can have value only in a male `society’, who can have a place in the sun, or, rather, in the slime, only as soothers, ego boosters, relaxers and breeders, who are dismissed as inconsequents by other females, who project their deficiencies, their maleness, onto all females and see the female as worm."

valerie solanas, SCUM